Gita Verses on Dealing with Grief and Loss

दुःख और शोक से मुक्ति

Spirituality

The entire Bhagavad Gita arose from Arjuna's grief. Lord Krishna's response teaches us the eternal nature of the soul and how to find solace and acceptance in the face of loss.

This guide brings together 5 verses from the Bhagavad Gita on dealing with grief and loss, drawn from chapters 2 and 18.

The Gita meets grief without flinching — it acknowledges Arjuna's tears, then patiently shows him the part of him that nothing can take away. Comfort comes through a wider vision, not denial.

  1. जातस्य हि ध्रुवो मृत्युर्ध्रुवं जन्म मृतस्य च।

    jātasya hi dhruvo mṛityur dhruvaṁ janma mṛitasya cha tasmād aparihārye ’rthe na tvaṁ śhochitum arhasi

    For the born, death is certain, and for the dead, birth is certain; therefore, you should not grieve over the inevitable.

    क्योंकि पैदा हुएकी जरूर मृत्यु होगी और मरे हुएका जरूर जन्म होगा। इस (जन्म-मरण-रूप परिवर्तन के प्रवाह) का परिहार अर्थात् निवारण नहीं हो सकता। अतः इस विषयमें तुम्हें शोक नहीं करना चाहिये।

  2. देहिनोऽस्मिन्यथा देहे कौमारं यौवनं जरा ।

    dehino 'smin yathā dehe kaumāraṁ yauvanaṁ jarā tathā dehāntara-prāptir dhīras tatra na muhyati

    Just as the embodied soul passes, in this body, through childhood, youth and old age, so it passes into another body at death. The wise are not deluded by this.

    जैसे देहधारी आत्मा इस शरीर में बालपन, जवानी और वृद्धावस्था को प्राप्त होती है, वैसे ही मृत्यु पर दूसरा शरीर प्राप्त होता है। धीर पुरुष इसमें मोहित नहीं होते।

  3. वासांसि जीर्णानि यथा विहाय

    vāsānsi jīrṇāni yathā vihāya navāni gṛihṇāti naro ’parāṇi tathā śharīrāṇi vihāya jīrṇānya nyāni sanyāti navāni dehī

    Just as a man casts off worn-out clothes and puts on new ones, so too the embodied Self casts off worn-out bodies and enters others that are new.

    मनुष्य जैसे पुराने कपड़ोंको छोड़कर दूसरे नये कपड़े धारण कर लेता है, ऐसे ही देही पुराने शरीरोंको छोड़कर दूसरे नये शरीरोंमें चला जाता है।

  4. सर्वधर्मान्परित्यज्य मामेकं शरणं व्रज ।

    sarva-dharmān parityajya mām ekaṁ śaraṇaṁ vraja ahaṁ tvā sarva-pāpebhyo mokṣayiṣyāmi mā śucaḥ

    Abandoning all duties, take refuge in me alone. I shall liberate you from all sins; do not grieve.

    सब धर्मों का आश्रय त्यागकर केवल मेरी शरण में आ जा। मैं तुझे सब पापों से मुक्त कर दूँगा, तू शोक मत कर।

  5. मात्रास्पर्शास्तु कौन्तेय शीतोष्णसुखदुःखदाः।

    mātrā-sparśhās tu kaunteya śhītoṣhṇa-sukha-duḥkha-dāḥ āgamāpāyino ’nityās tans-titikṣhasva bhārata

    The contact of the senses with the objects, O son of Kunti, which causes heat and cold, pleasure and pain, has a beginning and an end; they are impermanent; endure them bravely, O Arjuna.

    हे कुन्तीनन्दन! इन्द्रियोंके जो विषय (जड पदार्थ) हैं, वो तो शीत (अनुकूलता) और उष्ण (प्रतिकूलता) - के द्वारा सुख और दुःख देनेवाले हैं तथा आने-जानेवाले और अनित्य हैं। हे भरतवंशोद्भव अर्जुन! उनको तुम सहन करो।

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✦ Frequently Asked Questions ✦

What does the Bhagavad Gita say about grief and loss?

Krishna begins by saying the wise do not grieve for the living or the dead, because what is truly you was never born and will never die. The body changes; the inner being does not.

Which Gita verses are about grief?

Gita 2.112.13 (no need to grieve), 2.20 (the soul is unborn), 2.27 (death is certain for the born), 18.66 (release every sorrow into surrender), and Arjuna's own grief in chapter 1 are touched here.

How can the Gita help me deal with the loss of a loved one?

Let yourself feel the loss honestly first. Then, gently, let in the truth that the love between you was not the body alone — and the deeper thread does not end with the body.

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