Gita Verses on True Friendship and Relationships

सच्ची मित्रता और रिश्ते

Relationships

The friendship between Krishna and Arjuna is the Gita's living example. These verses teach us what it means to love, care, and be genuinely present for those in our lives.

This guide brings together 4 verses from the Bhagavad Gita on true friendship and relationships, drawn from chapters 4, 6, 11 and 12.

Krishna himself is named as suhrid — the loving friend of every being. The Gita's view of true friendship rests on goodwill that doesn't keep score, supports the friend's higher path, and stays steady through fortune and misfortune.

  1. सुहृन्मित्रार्युदासीनमध्यस्थद्वेष्यबन्धुषु।

    suhṛin-mitrāryudāsīna-madhyastha-dveṣhya-bandhuṣhu sādhuṣhvapi cha pāpeṣhu sama-buddhir viśhiṣhyate

    He who is of the same mind towards the good-hearted, friends, enemies, the indifferent, the neutral, the hateful, the relatives, the righteous, and the unrighteous, excels.

    सुहृद्, मित्र, वैरी, उदासीन, मध्यस्थ, द्वेष्य और सम्बन्धियोंमें तथा साधु-आचरण करनेवालोंमें और पाप-आचरण करनेवालोंमें भी समबुद्धिवाला मनुष्य श्रेष्ठ है।

  2. अद्वेष्टा सर्वभूतानां मैत्रः करुण एव च।निर्ममो निरहङ्कारः समदुःखसुखः क्षमी॥

    adveṣhṭā sarva-bhūtānāṁ maitraḥ karuṇa eva cha nirmamo nirahankāraḥ sama-duḥkha-sukhaḥ kṣhamī

    He who hates no creature, is friendly and compassionate to all, is free from attachment and egoism, is balanced in pleasure and pain, and is forgiving.

    सब प्राणियोंमें द्वेषभावसे रहित, सबका मित्र (प्रेमी) और दयालु, ममतारहित, अहंकाररहित, सुखदुःखकी प्राप्तिमें सम, क्षमाशील, निरन्तर सन्तुष्ट, योगी, शरीरको वशमें किये हुए, दृढ़ निश्चयवाला? मेरेमें अर्पित मनबुद्धिवाला जो मेरा भक्त है, वह मेरेको प्रिय है।

  3. परित्राणाय साधूनां विनाशाय च दुष्कृताम् ।

    paritrāṇāya sādhūnāṁ vināśāya ca duṣkṛtām dharma-saṁsthāpanārthāya sambhavāmi yuge yuge

    For the protection of the righteous, the destruction of the wicked, and the re-establishment of dharma, I am born in every age.

    सज्जनों की रक्षा, दुष्टों के विनाश और धर्म की पुनर्स्थापना के लिए मैं युग-युग में प्रकट होता हूँ।

  4. मत्कर्मकृन्मत्परमो मद्भक्तः सङ्गवर्जितः।

    mat-karma-kṛin mat-paramo mad-bhaktaḥ saṅga-varjitaḥ nirvairaḥ sarva-bhūteṣhu yaḥ sa mām eti pāṇḍava

    He who does all actions for Me, who regards Me as the Supreme, who is devoted to Me, who is free from attachment, who bears no enmity towards any creature, he comes to Me, O Arjuna.

    हे पाण्डवन ! जो मेरे लिये ही कर्म करनेवाला, मेरे ही परायण और मेरा ही भक्त है तथा सर्वथा आसक्तिरहित और प्राणिमात्रके साथ निर्वैर है, वह भक्त मेरेको प्राप्त होता है।

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✦ Frequently Asked Questions ✦

What does the Bhagavad Gita say about friendship?

Krishna names himself the friend of all beings (suhridam sarva-bhutanam) and praises the seeker who is friend to friend and foe alike — same in honour and dishonour. Real friendship is wide and unconditional.

Which Gita verses are about true friends?

Gita 5.29 (friend of all beings), 6.9 (equal toward friend and foe), 9.18 (Krishna as friend and refuge), 12.13–14 (friendly and compassionate to all), and 18.65 (be a friend of mine in devotion) are central.

How do I choose good friends according to the Gita?

Look for those who steady you in your higher tendencies, not those who only flatter your lower ones. Real friends help you keep the resolve you make when you're at your clearest.

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